I had a dream last night that I met my teenage self and I wanted to tell her so many things. However, in my dream I couldn’t because it would mess up the future (so frustrating!). I don’t know if it’s because I had read some of these posts so maybe it was playing on my mind, but I had a real urge to write my teenage self a letter and hopefully get those things off my chest. So it here goes…
The most important thing you need to know is that things will get better! You need to believe in yourself and stop doubting yourself. It will take you a while but you WILL get there. Sometimes you’ll have to remind yourself of how far you’ve come and of all of the obstacles you have tackled. You’ll still be standing after all of this and you’ll be a stronger person because of it.
In terms of school, don’t let what those bullies said even resonate in your mind for a second. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and keep it moving. School will soon be a distant memory and those people who made fun of you and called you names will soon be gone from your life forever. You will become very defensive of yourself because of them, and at times this will put strains on your relationships, but you have to let it go. Don’t let them get the better of you. Funnily enough, the things they make fun of you for will soon be ‘in fashion’.
Go for your dreams, don’t even hesitate. You get one life and you have to live it to the absolute full. I know you’re scared of college and of uni, but guess what? You actually do it and you do very well. So keep striving. You may not experience uni the same as everyone else because you stay at home but you make one of the bestest friends through uni. You will get the best job you’ve ever had because of uni. Oh yeah, jobs… so you’ll have a few and they’ll not be right for you. Just wait for that one job that you’ll love.
Friends will come and go, some will always be there and I’m pretty sure you know the ones I mean. Keep hold of them. One day you’ll even be living with one of them!!
Stop trying to grow up too fast. Let yourself be young and free, because one day you’ll be living on your own, paying your own bills and you’ll miss those years of being young and free. The older you get the quicker the time goes. Remember how long the 6 weeks holidays used to feel and how short they feel now? Well imagine how quickly a year can pass by when you’re older. So again, I stress the need to not grow up too fast. Enjoy your teenage years. Don’t feel the need to have your goals and dreams met by the time you’re 20. You’ve still got a lot of growing to do too and trust me, I’m nearly 25 at the time of writing this and I still don’t have all my act together. Just let life flow, but at the same time have the right amount of structure.
So I’ll finish this letter with the way I started it. The most important thing you need to know is that things will get better! And you’ll keep reminding yourself of that for a very long time.
Never give up and remember, whatever happens, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep it moving.
Laura, age 24 x